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"RiRi" Rita M. Tobey
I am 37 years young with a heart of steel and so much compassion for each person that I meet. I am the person in your life that will make you almost pee yourself from laughing so hard. This chick here, me, is the person that loves it when she sees one smiling and having fun. If you are glum, I will figure out a way to "turn that frown upside down". That saying is old school, but it describes what I am trying to say best. So smile, get freaky, and be happy! Life is too damn short to live life crappy. :-)
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Wednesday, January 30, 2013

Still here, just busy...

Hello everyone! Ri is back. I am no longer with Kaplan University due to being administratively dropped for supposed non-attendance. That was one year ago when I went into the hospital (again). However, I am with South University now in the same program, but it is so much different. I have labs now with the A&P classes--yes, I am having to retake them because Kaplan did not have the labs or the credits would have been transferred. My composition credits did follow me, but I have composition III coming up. LMBO!!! With all that being said, I am doing pretty well in life. My health is doing great with the exception of the little norovirus going around--just getting over that crap (pun intended). I have more family living out here on the property: My mother, sister, cousin, nephew and his wife and two and a half kids all here--not in the same house, but at the Bonafede Plantation or The Compound, you choose which to call it. LOL.

Today is the day my Grams was born (back in 1927). So, in remembrance of her, I am back with some photos:


Grams, Mom, and Pops

This photo was taken not too long before the car crash. After healing in a rehabilitation center, she came home for around two weeks and then went home to Glory in April 2005. I miss her so badly. I miss my best friend that any girl could ask or demand. 

Thank you Grams for helping with shaping me into the person I have become. I can see you anytime--all I have to do is look in the mirror. :-) There are a few features that are different, but the hair and forehead are all yours! Gosh, I miss you!! I hope you can see mom now, she has lost so much weight since this picture. I bet you can, looking down from Heaven at her and all of us kids.  

A conundrum for those who know what that is...

Why do people act as if they were highly intelligent, only to make an ass of themselves by not being as intelligent as they first thought?

A small tidbit for life..
If you have nothing nice or worth while to say...keep your abysmal mouth closed.
(I find this one funny.)

Why are small-minded people on this planet? Couldn't they go to Pluto, a dwarf planet???

If you have any questions or thoughts that are "out there"...please do not hesitate to comment. I will add it with citation to you!! I love doing these and hopefully will add more each week. I feel so much better after blurting out some silly words on this blog. You should try it sometime...LOL :-)

I am back again, this time with some free writing. Here is what I am feeling.

There are some things,
running through my brain.
So many things happening,
I am deeply drained.
Taking care of school and home,
everyday is the same.
Looking for ways to escape,
all along I am to blame.
Can't keep the husband happy,
I don't know what to do.
I feel somewhat depressed,
This is why I am blue.
I cannot do like I used to,
take care of this one and that one.
Back is sore and so much more,
I always have more that needs to be done.
He calls me when he is coming home,
"Have dinner ready by the time I get there."
I usually have it ready for him,
I think it's only fair.
Don't treat me like a piece of crap,
I am his equal, I am his wife.
Respect what I say,
Or I'll be out of his life!
When I said, "I do",
that meant he is the "only" in my heart.
I promised to love him, keep him, forsaking all others,
for now and always, until death do we part.
That is what I said,
that is what I intend.
From then through eternity,
our two hearts as one will always mend.
Love me as he loves himself,
thinking of others the way it should be.
I love him no matter what,
without accord, unconditionally.
Love is what one feels for another,
united as one the two came about.
Give and take as needed,
in my mind, there is no doubt.
He seems to be happy,
it took a little TLC.
I took my time,
I gave him what he needs.
I gave him my heart, my everything,
Love, pure honest love.
He knows this for a fact,
he says I was sent to him from above.
I am his angel in disguise,
sent straight down from the sky,
I can look him in the eye,
and say, "My love for you will never die!"

By Rita M. Tobey

Wednesday, July 14, 2010

New Term Started!!!

I am now taking Anatomy and Physiology I and Pharmacology. All of the studying I have been doing with Composition and Mathematics are coming in handy for both of these classes. It is amazing how one class can have a great impact on the next. Composition is helping me out on the A&P I class and Mathematics is assisting me with Pharmacology. Thank you Professors Feraldi and Alpert. You ladies taught me so much and I cannot thank you both enough!






For Professor Feraldi:
Thank you for being a rockin' Instructor! :-)


For Professor Alpert:
You have made my brain activity...active with mathematics!!! :-)


I am in a lullish mode. I am beside myself. I miss Captain Phil Harris!!! My prayers are still with his family that he temporarily left behind. We will all see you in heaven, Sir!



First off, the episode that I have been terrified to see was last night. June 22, 2010 is a day in history that I will not forget. Two other dates that correspond with this date are January 26, 2010 and February 9, 2010. If you know anything about Captain Phil Harris of the Cornelia Marie, you may be familiar with these dates.
I am not going to relive or bring back extra saddened news, but, last night I saw the episode where Captain Phil had his stroke while on the Cornelia Marie. I cried. News of what had happened back in January, which is when it actually happened, streamed across the Discovery Channel and the internet. Then, February brought the worst news to those who cherish Deadliest Catch and the crew of the Cornelia Marie, as well as the rest of the fleet.






Captain Phil Harris was and is still in my heart and the hearts of millions of people worldwide. He will always live on...spiritually. Another tear falls. While another Angel returns home. His body may be here, but I know his soul raised up to Heaven, where he now chases the King crab and Opilio crab forever, on the biggest boat ever imagined. He is no longer in pain and has a beautiful heart that everyone wishes that they could have!







He seemed to be a fun-loving, straight up man who looked fear in the eyes and kept going. He also cared for his crew, no matter what!

"The waves come up and have a tendency to wipe out whoever is standing there. I gotta make sure that don't happen." Captain Phil Harris, 2007



I just read a post from Facebook from Josh Harris of the Cornelia Marie and eldest son of Captain Phil Harris. Why do people have to be so harsh toward him and his family as they are going through this time? He has been through some extremely hard times lately. Why can't people leave the man alone and let him grieve for his father?

This may not the correct place for this, but I wish that for the Harris family that people would back the ____ off! For Josh and Jake: Keep your chins up and do not let anyone get under your skin! You guys are definitely your father's sons. That is a compliment, by the way. Stay strong and Godspeed! My prayers are with you both. :-)








The Harris Trio during happier times. Aren't they adorable!


The Captain of my heart, Captain Phil Harris.
You are and will be missed greatly.
Rest in Peace and Smooth Seas, Captain Phil.



I can almost cry right now. We are coming to an end of another term. Off to start another one...but, I am sad because I feel that I am leaving my new good friends behind. This is tearing me apart. I know that I feel this way with each term ending, but this time it is different. I have made some new connections with people who feel like family. I hate leaving family behind! I am going to MISS YOU ALL!!!!!!! So, let us make sure that we are not officially leaving each other behind and keep in touch by exchanging phone numbers or addresses or something....I almost posted mine here....not a good idea. It will be posted on the discussion board in class. Anytime any of you need a friend to talk with, I am right here. Friends mean the world to me. I don't care about nationality, background, any of that small minded way that people separate themselves. I am just me, a human who bleeds red just like the rest of the human race. Which leads me to one other thing...there is only one race....the human race. Remember, God is color blind. Skin tones don't mean __________!!!!!!!!! We are all His children. Take care my loves!!!

--ReRe, Rita, Screamin Cheetaaah, DCSquints, Cheetah Tobey, Rita M. Tobey......ME!

You can always find me at the following places:

St. Augustine, Fl
myspace.com/addicted2deadliestcatch
facebook.com/screamincheetaaah
twitter.com/screamincheetaaah
dcsquints@aol.com on AIM
If you own a hyundai or know anything about them...Hyundai-forums.com...I am Tibbi Girl. I have a tiburon fx. She is my baby!!!
in class somewhere....I am here and there at the same time!
And of course, you can keep in touch with me right here! :-)

May God bless you all. Best of wishes in your future classes and future profession!

Love is everything! So, spread some!!!

Tuesday, June 15, 2010

What the ???? Happened?!!?

OMG! I just got out of the hospital! I feel worse than when I went in. That is so sad. Here is what had happened...

On Thursday, I had the upper endoscopy and went home. Just before I left the hospital, I felt lethargic and highly swollen in the abdomen. Something was not right. The nurses told me to get something to eat and I should feel better. That did not happen! I got sicker.

After a night's worth of barfing, I was dehydrated and could not go to the potty. I could not move to save my life. As I was laying in the bed, I was having muscle spasms in the legs, arms, neck, jaw, and the entire back would spaz out, too. One of the spasms that hit my jaw locked my mouth open. That had to have been a sight! I tried to take my potassium pills, but they came back up for that last vote from the porcelain throne of judgment. Ha ha!

The day went on with the spasms and lethargy and I stayed in bed watching television. Most of the time, I was snoozing my life away. Literally! If my mom-in-law would not have came over to check on me, you would not be reading this. By the time she came over, I started having chest pains. I am not sure if they were my heart or not, but it hurt pretty badly.

I get to the e.r. and was sent to the back immediately. I was having breathing problems and kept fading in and out. My heart rate was 140 and my blood pressure was only 80/40. Pulse was too high and the blood pressure was too low. I was extremely cold to the touch, but I felt like I was on fire from the inside.

Then the nurses tried to get an iv. What a joke! My veins were hiding like OJ Simpson! The nurses were like, "I see you, now I am gonna poke you!" My veins had their own agenda, "I don't think so, Buddy! Catch me if you can. Hahahahahahaha! In your face!" I was poked over and over again. Both my arms and feet look like a pin cushion. Shoot, when I had the upper endoscopy, they got my iv in my ankle! They finally find one on my left hand on the side after fighting with all of the rest of my veins. I was hoping they would put one in my neck, better known as an "EJ". Those are so much better to have. They hurt a little bit, but are out of the way and last a bit longer than the ivs in the hands, arms, or feet. I have had them all. Central lines, PICC, midlines, I have had them at some point in my life.

Momentary Subject Change:  My hubby just gave me a back massage! Miracles do happen!!!!! I kept giggling because my back is so ticklish.

When I went to the er, I thought that they would give me some fluids and send me home...WRONG! I was admitted on Friday. The thing that was different this time was that I had a new symptom of panic attacks. Yesterday, I was happy that I could be released the next day, but things took a turn for the worse. I was lying in the bed trying to relax. But just then, I was almost catatonic with only my eyes able to move. That scared me! The iv pump was beeping because the iv in my inner elbow was kinked and I tried to move my arm to silence the machine, but there was NO movement of that arm. Then, I tried to call for my nurse, no sound came out! My breathing became erratic along with my heart rate and blood pressure. Finally, I was able to move my hand to press the nurses call button. Nothing was happening, no repsonse, no answer, nobody came, nothing. I was having uncontrollable feelings of fear that I have never felt before. It was horrifying! Then, I started thinking that people were after me and that there was a conspiracy happening against me. Just at the very moment,  my nurse popped her head in and asked if I was alright. I was able to mumble an almost silent, "No". She looked at me and called for assistance. My chest was jumping up and down quickly. She sat next to me and started to calm me down. She took my blood pressure and other stats, which were overwhelming by themselves. BP: 148/92, Respirations: 26, Heart Rate: 141, Oxygen: 98. Once the panic attack was over, my stats went back to normal: BP: 117/73, Repirations: 17, Heart Rate: 113, Oxygen: 99. I was given xanax, diluadid, and phenerghan. What a combination! Whew, I went to sleep! I woke up two hours later and went downstairs for a cigarette. I came back to bed after getting three puffs and was good. Then the night nurse came in and gave me more xanax to put my behind to sleep. I had a total of 4 mg of xanax, 4 mg of diluadid, and 50 mg of phenerghan last night. I am still a zombie right now! That medicine was given to me almost 24 hours ago! Go figure!

When it comes to me remembering things, my brain tends to play out exactly what had happened. I remember just about everything. My husband, Ric, calls me the "steel trap" because of this. But, my brain is in a fog at this moment. I am hoping that I can do all of my classwork from this week and get it turned in by midnight tonight!